Saturday, February 02, 2013

About Dad

As some you know my Dad has been off and on unwell for a while. He had his 90th birthday in October 2012. All of us (his kids and our kids) went out with Dad to celebrate. It was a great celebration. We even played the spoon game (flipping a spoon into a water glass by using another spoon). The restaurant didn't seem to mind and we didn't break anything! It's a birthday celebration we will all remember, especially since it was Dad's last.  I lost my Dad this past week. Taking care of him and being with him  took the larger part of my time. As I told my siblings, I would happily do it again and wish I was still doing it.

My siblings asked that I speak at the funeral. My Dad had 90 years, the majority of them pretty darn terrific.  I usually don't talk about my personal life here so I hope that you will indulge me in this non-bookish post. I will not be mentioning this again. Here is what I said at his funeral yesterday:

Dad was an amazing person. He quietly taught me so many things.

One of the earliest things that I remember is Dad teaching me how to garden. When I was little he would give me the plants that needed nursing. He made a little garden for me not far from his bigger garden. The lesson there was don’t give up even on the things that don’t look so wonderful to start. They may bloom and surprise you.

Dad taught me about sports. We spent many Saturday and Sunday afternoons watching college and pro football together. Dad taught me about baseball by taking me to Major League farm team games at the local stadium. This included how to properly yell at the umpire. The lesson there was learn the rules and be a team player, but it’s okay to speak up when things are not right.

So many of the lessons Dad taught me were useful not only in life in general but in my career.

My Dad taught me the value of a job well done. That if you work hard, the people working with you will work hard too.

My Dad taught me how to value people and that everyone can shine given the chance and the right niche.

Dad taught me to get to the point and focus on the objective. During a particularly difficult time I turned to Dad for advice. He told me that "if  I could save it, save it. If not, I should cut my losses.” He got to the point, put everything in perspective and it was the best advice I received.

So getting to the point, the most important things Dad taught were really taught by example: love your family, care for those around you, be generous of spirit, do the best you can do, and be the best person you can be.

Dad’s generation is called the Greatest Generation. Dad was one of the very best of that Greatest Generation. Thank you Dad for your love, support and the wonderful example you were for all of us. Love you always.





40 comments:

  1. Once again, sorry to hear about your dad, Sally. And this is a great post and a way to remember him. Stay strong!

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  2. I'm so sorry your loss. But glad you got to spend time with him.

    You wrote a lovely tribute to a very good man.

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  3. Extremely sorry to hear about your father Qwill. This is indeed a great tribute for your dad and I hope you treasure his memory.

    Mihir

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    1. Thank you, Mihir. He was one of a kind. I will treasure his memory always.

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  4. Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute, Sally. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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    1. Thank you, Evie. He was the best of the best.

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  5. My deepest sympathies to you and your father and what a wonderful tribute to him.

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  6. That was a lovely tribute to your Dad, Sally. I'm so very sorry for your loss, but glad you had that time with him to make more memories.
    All my love and great big (((huggles))) to you and your family.

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    1. Thank you! I was very lucky to have him in my life for so long.

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  7. So sorry to hear about your father. What a lovely way to remember him.

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  8. So sorry to hear about your Dad, I'll miss hearing Dad stories. But he's somewhere having a cup of tea with my mom.

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    1. Thank you! I picture Dad having a wonderful glass of red wine. :-)

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  9. I am so so so sorry to learn of your loss. I wish you nothing but peace and strength as you push through this unbearable grief. All my thoughts and sympathies. - Pamela

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  10. Thank you for sharing! Best wishes to your family and our thoughts and prayers go out to you.

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  11. Blubbing again! But not at work this time

    m

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    1. Hugs. When I practiced reading this I always wept at the end despite trying not to. At the funeral I started off crying but finished okay. Odd that.

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss.
    That was a lovely speech about your dad. :)

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    1. Hi Tina. There was a lot more I could have said, but I wanted to get to the point (per what Dad taught me).

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  13. He sounds like a wonderful man. Very special tribute, and I'm very sorry for your loss.

    Theresa

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    1. He was the most special of special! Thank you.

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  14. My most sincere condolences on your loss. My Dad is also a member of 'the Greatest Generation' and celebrated his 92nd birthday in October 2012 (small world). His health is waning, his heart is only kept beating by a pacemaker and the drs have basically said it's only a matter of time. I watch my mother worry and fret. If he is still here in April, they will celebrate 65 yrs of marriage. The thought of him not being here is tough to imagine but I'm reconciling myself to it. I know when the times come it won't be easy. My heart goes out to you and your speech was beautiful. Remember it and him always!

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    1. Thank you, Amy. My parents almost made it to 53 years. Mom passed away a few days before that. Hugs to you. Hoping your Dad stays well!

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  15. I am so sorry and my thoughts and prayers are with you. Your dad sounds like he had a wonderful and love filled life. He passed on many excellent traits to you. He will be missed but I can tell that you have great memories of him.

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    1. Thank you, Victoria. There are so many wonderful memories. Dad was really a fine human being and a lot of fun.

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  16. Very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the very touching tribute.

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    1. Thank you. I debated posting it, but doing so has made me feel a bit better.

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  17. I'm very sorry for your loss. I wish you lots of strength and will keep you and your loved ones in my thoughts. *hugs*

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    1. Thank you. His absence is keenly felt, but we will muddle through as always.

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  18. How lovely--I know he's proud of how much his influence turned you into the amazing woman you are today :)

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    1. Thank you, Dakota. He was an incredible Dad. I was blessed with two wonderful parents.

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  19. Oh, Qwill. What a wonderful tribute. My deepest condolences for your loss. Much love to you and yours. Big, big hugs!!!

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  20. Sally, I'm sorry to hear about your dad. He sounds like he was a wonderful father and great person. What a nice tribute. It's hard when you miss someone you love, but hold on to those shared memories. They'll see you through. Sending you warm and sympathetic thoughts.

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